- April 01, 2016
- 3 minute read
- by Staci Gray
Dale Carnegie said, “People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing."
Enjoying the healing process and playing your way to success is about quality of life. It’s about creating a meaningful, fulfilling life right now, while you heal and pursue all that you want. Maya Angelou described success as “...liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
If success is about liking your life – liking your quality of life. And quality of life is about personal fulfillment. Then, what is personal fulfillment about?
I believe personal fulfillment is about continuously growing and then contributing beyond ourselves in a meaningful way. We all have a need to experience a life of meaning. A life of meaning is not a destination, but a journey of progress towards our dreams, goals, and aspirations.
If you spend most of your days not fully enjoying what you do, how you do it, and with whom you do it - I would argue that’s not success. It might be a nice paycheck. It might be a way to pass time. It may even add value to other people’s lives. But if its not fulfilling to you than it might be time to consider another option.
Choosing to enjoy the healing process and play your way to success is not a selfish goal. It’s an honorable one. The happiest, most fulfilled people are more engaged, more creative, more innovative, more compassionate, and embrace change better than unhappy or unfulfilled people.
Which do you think your friends, your co-workers, your family, our economy, and our society needs? Fulfilled people or Unfulfilled people?
The communities we are a part of need more people who are choosing to heal and being intentional with their habits so that they can grow in to the unstoppable versions of themselves they want to be. Healing isn’t just about a destination. Success isn’t just about performance, results, or accomplishment… they’re about enjoying the process.
Making the shift from evaluating success based on achievement or performance to evaluating success based on quality of life takes courage, but I dare you to be intentional about your quality of life. It may take a transition period, but you just might discover you are enjoying the healing process and that you can play your way to success.
The mental shift here is evaluating your quality of life based on your values and standards NOT on the values or standards of your parents, your friends, your employer, society or your paycheck. Compromising our values and standards for someone else, for a paycheck or a sense of “security” does not make us feel fulfilled.
Have courage to honestly evaluate your quality of life and make a choice to design your future. Identify the values that motivate you and then establish daily habits to support your values, which will then create your desired quality of life. These daily habits are standards.
Personally, I value freedom and choice. I hate being told what to do, how to do it, when to do it and with whom to do it. The very first word I ever spoke, was myself. I like to play. I like a challenge. I like to make progress. I like to succeed. I also like to break the rules. There is a little rebel in me. Just ask my parents.
Katherine Hepburn said, "If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun.” If this resonates with you, I dare you to become an Unstoppable Action-Taker with me.