- June 01, 2016
- 3 minute read
- by Staci Gray
Not too long ago, my spirit was squashed. I mean crushed . . . compounding experiences of rejection, abandonment, betrayal, abuse, and poor choices.
I don’t know what it is about high-energy, free spirited, adventurous souls that attract some of the most life-sucking individuals, but it happens and it happened to me.
This free-spirited, spitfire girl I used to be got my ass handed to me and worst of all, I didn’t see it coming. I didn’t know what I didn’t know and I paid full price for the lesson. But the best of it is, I didn’t let it stop me. I bounced back.
I largely attribute becoming a stronger and wiser version of myself to choice—the ability to choose and exercise that ability on a consistent, unstoppable basis.
Early on in my life, I was very unclear about who I was and what I wanted, thus I quickly handed over my right to choose to my parents, my friends, my employers, my boyfriends, and just about anyone who had an opinion about who I should be and what I should do.
I let them tell me who I was, what my dreams were, what hobbies to pursue, how to spend my time, what I liked or didn’t like, and ultimately to dictate my future.
I always say, nothing is ever all good or all bad. As you can imagine, my personal journey has included many highs and lows; successes and failures; heartbreak and sorrow; trust and betrayal; accomplishments and disappointments; and each experience has been interlaced with life lessons.
The glaring mistake I made was that I had forgotten I had a choice in my own life. Reclaiming what I had naively and innocently handed over has been a process, a liberating process that I attribute to these ten choices.
I’ve spent many years learning to embrace who I am, reignite my passions, and make mindful choices which brought back my free spirit and adventurous soul. Brian Tracy says, “The kindest thing you can do for the people you care about is to become a happy, joyous person.” That’s what I want be.
I believe gratitude and resilience are a choice, as is confidence and courage. Regardless of previous choices, a new choice can be made THIS very moment, a choice to be better, not bitter. A choice to uphold standards that breed confidence, gratitude, resilience, positivity, vitality, clarity, and purpose.
For me, life is about progress not perfection. It’s not about pretending to be someone I’m not. It’s about embracing me as I am and having courage through the fear, vulnerability, and missteps in life.
Life has a way of pressuring us into forgetting we have a choice. I've created this community to help remind us all that we have a choice in our own lives.
If you're at a place where you want to make different choices and be intentional about your future, the ebook might be a helpful resource to you. It contains the choices I practice to protect my head and heart from ever jeopardizing my happiness, confidence, freedom, and peace of mind again.